So far, we have been losing this war horribly. Our dead litter the brothels and the crack houses, our prisoners of war are held captive by the porn industry, and our would-be warriors are enticed away to serve the destroyers of the souls of Black girls. Our survivors wander through a wasteland of damaged social standing, reduced life choices, and meager economic opportunity; many become locked in a cycle of self preservation.
We are losing this war because we only play defense, and consistently fail to play offense. Our defensive strategy is as follows: “Gird and re-gird yourself with “strength,” -- with the impossible goal of becoming an impervious statue: ‘The Black Woman of Steel.’” We have become women celebrate the fact that we can continually absorb earth-shattering, soul-smashing blows to the spirit and still manage to waveringly get up again.
We are losing this war because we confuse “strength” with “longsuffering.”
We are losing this war because Black women take counsel and advice from people who have an economic or social stake in our losing the war over the souls of Black girls.
We are losing this war because we continue to wage wars against amorphous nouns. We rail against beliefs and concepts without neutralizing the people who conceptualize and promote those beliefs and concepts. We heap ridicule on the “War on Drugs” and the “War on Terror” strategies, but use precisely the same method to declare wars like the “War on sexism” or a “War on hip hop”, leaving the specific purveyors of the War over the Souls of Black Girls untouched.
We are losing this war because we confuse arguing with fighting.
We are losing this war because we fail to see with our Second Set of Eyes. We reject the “ I did not start this war” argument from white racio-misogynists, but accept or excuse it from black racio-misogynists. (Black Pass)
We are losing this war because we bunker down in our own safer territories, and rarely enter the enemy’s territory to take their cities.
BUT THE WAR IS NOT OVER.
If we are going to win this war, we are going to have to make some serious changes about how we address all of the points above. Today I'm hoping to just scratch the surface:
Point 1: “We fail to recognize the true enemy, and only see it’s infantry.”
Most of us recognize that ‘the media’ is heavily to blame for the ‘self-image disorder’ of black girls that is described by Daphne Valerius, creator of the documentary The Souls of Black Girls.
But who, specifically, are the key decision makers in the media, and what can be done about them? I will throw out a few names to get the ball rolling:
Our more aware readers know that folk like Bob Johnson, Debra Lee, and Philippe Dauman have made billion dollar empires that are fueled by distorting the souls of
Black girls.
However, none of those people would have the power to do major damage to the Black female image without the assistance of people like Kevin J. Martin.
Look at this picture on the left, and memorize the face. Who is this guy who looked like he just stepped out of high school? He is the chair of the Federal Communications Commission (FCC). He is the biggest reason that people get away with ridiculing and degrading black women in media.
Appointed by George W. Bush, he forced through changes that plummeted media ownership by minorities in the past few years. He is the person who has been arrogantly handing over massive market share to the very people who profit by portraying black women in the worst ways imaginable.
In a nutshell, Kevin J. Martin’s job at the FCC is supposed to protect the public’s interest in communications. Astonishingly, Mr. Martin has done exactly the opposite, using every trick in
the book to pave the way for media consolidation. Although has was fought by media watchdogs, Mr. Martin has managed to make significant progress:
From October 2006 to October 2007, the number of minority-owned
commercial TV stations decreased by 8.5 percent -- and African American TV
station ownership dropped by an astonishing 60 percent. (source)

Future minority channels are in greater jeopardy, because they will find it difficult to compete with mega-conglomerates who will stop at nothing to squeeze them out of the market by leveraging their media assets in other areas -- assets that they should not have had in the first place.
Many people do not know this, but the TV and radio airwaves are not owned by private
companies, they are public and owned by American citizens. By handing access of our airwaves over to media consolidation, he has effectively exercised a form of eminent domain and given our most precious asset, to an oligarchy that has a proven record of misrepresenting African American women.
What can Black women do about this?
For starters, we can demand that our Presidential candidates actually do something for us in exchange for our votes. Here are a few things that I expect from Barack Obama and John McCain in exchange for mine:
1. Fire Kevin J. Martin the day after inauguration.
2. Appoint a new FCC chairperson who has a proven record of defending the plurality of voices on television, radio, and in print.
3. Vow to veto any bill that's designed to give even more territory to to large media conglomerates.
4. Vow to use your presidential power of persuasion to encourage legislators to write laws that will increase the diversity of media OWNERSHIP (not just representation), especially WOMEN OF COLOR.
5. Use presidential power of persuasion to admonish media corporations to refrain from using the tools of propaganda to profit from stereotypes of women of color.
There are many more things that we can do ourselves -- we have more weapons in our arsenal than boycotts, votes, and protests!
But whatever we do, we must begin to FIGHT for the souls of Black Girls.




63 comments:
SheCodes,
This is along the lines of what I planned to email to you. I didn't have a plan but I wanted to suggest that something be initiated to save Black girls from self-destruction.
I've just been hearing some horrible things that break my heart.
My BF was on a Hip Hop site and came across a comment like this regarding the R. Kelly case: "Well, she was 14. She was bound to start @#$*ing anyway..." WTH?! My BF shook his head and said "Women get no respect." I just snapped. I was pacing the house complaining about how there's no refuge for Black women and girls but we're always looked to for support. Always. I just can't stand it.
Khadijah had it right when she said that it's time to "cut the apron strings." focusedpurpose had it right when she said that it's time to embark on a journey of self-preservation. We've got to adopt a selfish mindset. Selfishness is healthy --- self-centeredness is not. The two shouldn't be confused.
People are failing their children. No self-worth is taught so young women and girls search for theirs in the worst places. No one's teaching them resilience so they're always settling.
At the same time, I'm worried about how our message would be received by the youth. Khadijah made a good point of noting how shallow a lot of them are. We've still gotta press on though.
Normally, I read this blog instead of posting but this post really made a lot of sense to me. Yes, black women are loosing this war. We are getting our behinds kicked honestly. I've tried to ignore the things are happening with black women, hoping that things would get better but I just can't do that anymore. The negativity follows you. It bothers me to a point where I have to do something for my own sanity. I've thought about this time after time, trying to figure out what I did or what black women did to deserve what we experience. My conclusion is that we didn't do anything to deserve this. Consider me signed up. I learn how to fight this.
Hi Shecodes.
I think I'm in the visionary part of this battle.
As you know, I've started a blog called Jump in! Its about a young black girl who learns to fight w/ a fighting stick. She also gains supernatural powers and decides to fight all those who relentlessly try to destroy her people, her life, etc. (Dr. Fibbs in place of Kevin Martin)
This may not seem like much, but just as far as expanding the imagination and really thinking 'out of the box' I hope this would be useful to girls. (the intent was that they and everyone helps by pitching in to the story, but it seems not that way).
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That aside, if there is something more practical and hands on I can do I am still thinking.
SheCodes, I have passed this post to Obama and McCain "Women's" divisions- let's see if they respond.
"We are losing this war because we fail to see with our Second Set of Eyes. We reject the “ I did not start this war” argument from white racio-misogynists, but accept or excuse it from black racio-misogynists. (Black Pass)"
"We are losing this war because we confuse “strength” with “longsuffering."
Great article. Thank you.
this is a great article. we can't forget that we pay this man's salary. he should be held accountable to us like every other public official.
i believe there are some open doors w/ Obama on this issue... http://obama.senate.gov/press/071022-obama_fcc_polic/
i've heard him discuss it in th epast a few times and it's part of his technology platform.
i don't know enough about mccain to make an honest assesment of his background with this issue, but would be curious to here from those who do.
SheCodes,
This is such a relevant piece! Thank you for giving concrete steps.
@ Anonymiss
I am not sure selfishness is needed but vigilance is certainly needed.
Many black women are quick to put others first. I don't think that saying "NO" is selfish. I don't think that having solid priorities that we will NOT take off of the front burner is selfish.
There are some church women who are in church every day of the week, neglecting their own children in order to be on a committee, their kids are sitting in the hallways at night at church, neglecting their own homes, neglecting their own health and they rush to help everyone who has a need - large or small. They pride themselves on this imbalanced type of life. They think that they are showing how deeply "Christian" they are.
We really need to re-think these things.
@ Mekare
You said:
"I've thought about this time after time, trying to figure out what I did or what black women did to deserve what we experience.."
We all have to examine these feelings of victimization.
YES - black women CAN and should be taking concrete steps that were not being taken before on a consistent basis.
NO - we are not "deserving" of subjugation and degradation.
YES - we are fully capable, fully empowered to decide that we will not be victimized and subjugated by white America or by black men. We have a choice to make.
We do have to take accountability when we continue to allow others to define us, degrade us and dismiss us.
Just how IS IT that Obama got 80% of the black vote WITHOUT promising black women a darn thing? Because we are often willing to GIVE, give, give without issuing a demand. We must take accountability for some of our own patterns of behavior.
There's much more to say on this...but I'll wait and let others weigh in.
Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa
Anonymiss: I see comments like that one about R Kelly's victim all the time. This is why we must change the dialogue, starting with some serious "women-to-women' conversations.
It will be very difficult to change these mindsets if we do not have a say about our public collective image. This is why media ownership by black women (the HEALTHY kind) is so vital.
Everyone else has proven that they can not be trusted to deal truthfully and fairly with the black female image. It's our turn to try to do better with it.
@mekare: Yes unfortunately our behinds are getting kicked. Badly. But I am seeing glimmers of hope -- check for my post tomorrow and I will give you an example.
You are right: we did nothing to deserve this treatment. But shame on us if we do nothing to stop it for the next group of black women.
We need to start by demanding that Barack Obama clearly state his intentions concerning the FCC. The same is true for John McCain. This is a serious matter that we can NOT afford to ignore.
@Miriam: I will send the link to my 14 year old niece. She loves to read and I know that she will enjoy it!
@privychairlady: Thanks! I will try to be more succinct when the PAC publishes our legislative list of support. I had too much going on inside and realize now that I need to make it shorter and plainer.
@la~: You're welcome! I'm going to start a convo on Facebook tomorrow to get the boards moving on this topic.
@BWBTT: This is just scratching the surface. We need to collectively make it clear that the FCC's betrayal is a dealbreaker in the Presidential election.
You are absolutely right. And I am willing to admit that I am one of those that never considered the "true" enemy. I've always recognized media outlets as a major enemy; but never thought far enough to look at the source. Excellent post Shecodes. Thank you.
Great article..
As-salaam alaykum Empress,
That was awesome. Yeah it seems that gangster stomping has become a new way of "fighting- guaranteed recruits for the thugs in this historian's opinion.
- When the One comes with Whom we have always danced;
We we embraced by our Lady Al-Azeem;
When we touch down upon the pain of our existence;
Then we wash in the bliss of al-Nur (the Light);
Then we become one with our Home
Maryam
I'm new to the whole podcast thing. How does it work?
@blackwomenblowthetrumpet
"Just how IS IT that Obama got 80% of the black vote WITHOUT promising black women a darn thing? Because we are often willing to GIVE, give, give without issuing a demand. We must take accountability for some of our own patterns of behavior."
You know, I saw how the owner of "what about our daughters" challenged Obama about this. Obama's response was some sort of cut and paste letter talking about a protection from child abuse bill that he passed? I witnessed the pressure that bw experience when we speak up for ourselves. Honestly, its always not that black women don't speak up - it's just that when we do - we get fire breathed down on us. No one listens because there is some other “big plan” that our concern is in the way of. Of course we cave in. Go along with what we know is wrong and then get blamed. I mean, bw have some tough adversaries. They can’t be underestimated at all. Do we have the nerves of steel and stealth to beat those that our causing us so much pain?
Great stuff, as always, Shecodes.
You know, I honestly think the current position Michelle Obama and her daughters are in will be the necessary catalyst to begin discussing this war against the souls of black girls.
If Obama loses, we will see that most of what will cause this loss will be the racio-misogynistic way they go after Michelle. And if our dream is cut down because of this, I would imagine this would be a wonderful opportunity for black women to declare unequivocally that there is a real war against us, and we will fight it.
If Obama wins, there is no doubt in my mind that we can work with the First Lady on this agenda. Her serving as First Lady will, just by her very representation, put a spotlight on the issue.
To me, this is an agenda that's going to get attention regardless of the outcome.
The question is: how do we strategize ourselves so that the issue remains on the national (and international) agenda?
@Anxious Black Woman,
Maybe I'm missing something here. What, if anything, has Michelle Obama ever done that would lead us to believe that we can work with her about any issue? I'm not saying that she shouldn't be approached. I'm just concerned about anything that sounds like an assumption that she's automatically a friend to Black women & girls.
For all we know, she could be another Debra Lee [aka "Beelzebub's Henchwoman"] or Condoleeza Rice ["Gotta shop for shoes while Black folks drown in New Orleans---can't miss that sale"].
Peace, blessings & solidarity.
I agree with you SheCodes and I also wonder how many people, not just Black women, know when something benefits them without the need of the flashing sign saying "[insert demographic here] this one is for you" ?
An interesting angle:
According to that wikipedia article:
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Congressional Investigation
On December 3, 2007, John Dingell (D) of the House Commerce Committee sent a letter to Martin stating that "given several events and proceedings over the past year, I am rapidly losing confidence that the commission has been conducting its affairs in an appropriate manner." Martin is under investigation for a lack of transparency in FCC proceedings as well as an abuse of his power in relation to cable industry regulations. He has also been accused of keeping his fellow commissioners in the dark in an attempt to push through policy.
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And he's still around doing his thing. Hmmm. Did he just get a tap on the hand for show and a big pat on the back in private? (or am I mixing stories lol)
Khadija, why would you think that she would NOT be someone we could work with? I see no reason why she couldn't be engaged either way.
@ Khadija
I am glad that you posed that question... I wrote in a post just last week: "brown skin and career prominence do NOT evidence black consciousness"!!
Michelle is in her 40s...what role has she taken in ANY black organizations in the past 20 years? Does ANYONE know?
We are so happy to see a black woman on stage with her black girls that we don't even ask the basic questions about WHAT EXACTLY has she done ...specifically for the black community...other than adding two delightful children to the black race?
Which initiatives has she spearheaded that impact women of color...in the last 20 years?
Have you looked her up on www.newsmeat.com? Which black lawmakers has she OPENLY supported in the last 20 years?
Hmmmm....I think we need to do some homework before we start CLAIMING that Michelle will be an ally for black women....
I'm just saying...
Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa
@Anxious Black Woman: I'm not saying that she shouldn't be approached. Like I said, my concern is any assumption that she's a friend to Black women & girls. At this point, we don't know what she is.
@Lisa: You've fleshed out in more detail my exact concerns about any assumption that Michelle O [or anybody else for that matter] is our friend. By the time that somebody is in their 40s, they really ought to have some concrete actions that they can point to that served our people's interests.
I'm also giving her a slight "pass" in that nobody's done any homework to figure out whether she's friend, foe, or whatever in between.
Frankly, I usually feel that if I have to do deep research to find out about a prominent Black person's support of the Black community---then something's wrong with that person. Either they haven't done much [extremely problematic], or they've been operating under deep cover [extremely unlikely].
Peace, blessings & solidarity.
Hi everyone,
I believe that we, black women, have got a fight on our hands. However, I am a little hesitant to attack or even question Michelle Obama at this point. Black women have enough strife to deal with so we don't really have to jump on her case at this time, IMO. What worried me is that we will do the very thing to her that we cry out against. Remember, Michelle is a black woman like we are so let's give her a chance.
Lastly, I think I'll link to this post as it is a message that needs to be heard.
Frankly, I usually feel that if I have to do deep research to find out about a prominent Black person's support of the Black community---then something's wrong with that person. Either they haven't done much [extremely problematic], or they've been operating under deep cover [extremely unlikely]
That plays into the belief that our advocacy has to be big. Maybe she wasn't the lead, maybe she was part of a team. Maybe she did her advocacy locally (like most people should).
I agree Khadija, we should not automatically assume someone is our ally.
We should proceed with caution though not with fear.
I also feel there is a small faction of us out there, in order to be the antithesis of the pro-Michelle Obama faction, that almost wants Michelle Obama to not be a friend.
Do Black women have so much fight bottled inside and are itching to fight so that we are ready to come out the corner swinging no matter who is the target? Friend or foe? Let's know the enemy.
Because someone isn't screaming, "Black women, Black women I am your friend." doesn't mean they can't be of service.
We need to learn to be observant and more savvy than only thinking those who directly call our name are the only allies an resources we have.
All alliances aren't binding and forever. What we may need a white male reporter for (most of our Dunbar coverage came from White reporters) may not be the allies we need for a different battle.
Lormarie,
Who said anything about attacking Michelle O or about jumping on her case? And why be hesitant about asking questions about her? Nobody is denying her "a chance." In fact, she's had continuous "chances" throughout her adult career. She continues to have "a chance" right now. How is asking questions somehow denying her "a chance"? Seriously, I don't get it.
Isn't this pattern [not asking questions up front] a large part of why we're getting our rear ends kicked? Again, maybe I'm missing something here.
Peace, blessings & solidarity.
@ LorMarie
I understand what you are saying...I do...
Still...what you are saying is just the kind of thing that I rail against on my blog (smile)...
I am tired of hearing ...oh let's give this black person a pass....let's give THAT black person a pass..ENOUGH I SAY!
Enough.
I am not saying YOU are doing that, however.
Still...doing our homework to find out whether OR NOT she can be an ally is not the same as jumping on on her case.
It really isn't...
It is not an ATTACK on Michelle Obama to check WHETHER OR NOT she has done anything significant to speak out on or advance the issues that matter MOST to black women!
Do you know why black women waste so much time and energy at the negotiating table...that's IF they show up at all...is that they focus on the things that DO NOT advance the objective.
I've been in high-level meetings when black women are declaring this famous sista or that an "ally for black women"....their criteria is often shallow, shallow, shallow...
They mention that they like her hair, her wardrobe, her car, her husband's views...ENOUGH!
They will name what sorority someone is in... so what if she pledged a sorority at the age of 19...THAT does not evidence black consciousness...
They will say she's been a member of XYZ Megachurch for 20 years...and so what if her name is in a database?
What did she ACTUALLY DO to advance the ministry and the objectives of the organizations she has been involved in?
Or someone will name a famous sista and say, "she and her husband gave $1,000 to the building fund!" okay...and that couple has a net income of $5.5 million so IS THAT amount really anything major? Does it represent SACRIFICIAL giving or just a drop in the bucket in order to 'look like' we are supporting xyz...
I revoke all admission tickets to Fantasy Island right now. We need to get real, sisters.
Checking EACH person's achievements for black women BEFORE declaring that person an ally is very necessary.
This is what due diligence consists of... checking all relevant facts.
Thanks for letting me blow my trumpet!
Lisa
Symphony,
Service doesn't have to be big. It does need to be tangible, though. Which usually means visible to the naked eye. One shouldn't need an electron microscope to observe a person's benefit to the community.
Who's itching for a fight or coming out swinging? I simply said that I didn't understand what sounded like an assumption that Michelle O is a friend of ours. And asked if I was missing something that would lead us to believe that.
I don't know what she is to us.
And in terms of local advocacy [which I agree is usually the most effective kind]: That's why I have such a big question mark about her. I grew up in Chicago. I practice in Chicago. I'm in the same age group as the Obamas. There are usually less than 6 degrees of separation between the Black professionals that grew up in Chicago, because the neighborhoods are extremely segregated.
We generally went to the same cluster of high schools, and know somebody who knows somebody else in this group of people. One usually hears things that aren't widely publicized because of the few degrees of separation. I find it peculiar that I haven't heard anything from anybody about her activities in support of the local Black community.
I'm not assuming that she hasn't done anything to benefit Black folks. I don't know either way. But I do feel that it's unwise to assume that every Black person is a friend. And I do feel that we are entitled to ask the question "What has _____________ ever done that benefitted us?"
Peace, blessings & solidarity.
Khadija
That plays into the belief that our advocacy has to be big. Maybe she wasn't the lead, maybe she was part of a team. Maybe she did her advocacy locally (like most people should).
I agree Khadija, we should not automatically assume someone is our ally.
That was my responding to what you said.
Everything else, to include itching for a fight, was my speaking in general not anyone specific.
Lisa said, "I revoke all admission tickets to Fantasy Island right now. We need to get real, sisters."
PREACH!!
Yes, as Lisa noted, asking questions is simply a matter of due diligence. This is business that we're talking about in reference to Michelle O. Not an emotional investment.
Peace, blessings & solidarity.
Hey everybody! Great to see you keeping the converstion going... I'll be back to respond to several of them too!
Big news: I am (most likely) going to meet John McCain this Friday. I am writing some questions down, starting with what he is going to do about the FCC, and also what he is going to do to ensure that there is plurality of media ownership in America.
(I sooo want to stay in the comments section right now, but my mom just asked me to buy 8 tangerines and bring them over to my parents' house. What in the world??)
All I can say is wow. It appears that things are going in a direction that was not intended. No one is making an assumption that every black woman should get a pass. What worries me is that we are questioning Michelle Obama when it is her husband who may be president, thus affecting our lives in a way that Michelle Obama can never do. I worry that black women, because of experiences, are too cynical. I find that the best approach for me is to avoid suspicion until I am given a reason to be suspicious. Until Ms. Obama does or says something that causes me to question her commitment to uplifting black women, I'll consider her innocent.
Hey everybody! Great to see you keeping the converstion going... I'll be back to respond to several of them too!
Big news: I am (most likely) going to meet John McCain this Friday. "
Wow SheCodes! How exciting and what an opportunity.
***ASIDE:
I suspect Hillary was an Enneagram 3 personality and Obama is a 6.
Is anyone into that? Does anyone know what Michelle's is? ****
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This was the only thing I could find on what M. Obama has done.
While at Harvard, she participated in political demonstrations advocating the hiring of professors who are minorities.[11]
that's from wiki.
Also:
I think y'all are saying pretty much the same thing. the difference is "guilty until innocent proven" or "innocent until found guilty" approach.
I think she's a 1
Good luck, Shecodes!!!
I'm sure you will be representing for us, Shecodes.
I didn't mean to come off like I'm giving Michelle Obama a free pass, but yes, I will admit that I am impressed with what she has accomplished so far, with regards to her ivy league education, law career, wife and mother role, and her strong advocacy for her husband's presidential run. I also believe she attended a world socialist forum (have to double check on this) in which her speech was favorably received.
I think she's a potential ally.
Lisa,
The other distinction that we must keep in mind is that an ally is not the same thing as a friend. A friend will help you whether it benefits them or not. Usually out of love, affection, loyalty, and all those other feel-good emotions.
In contrast, an ally typically doesn't have those feel-good emotions invested into the transaction. An ally is looking for some benefit for themselves. I define an ally as somebody who is actively doing something that furthers my goals. And not necessarily doing this out of any affection for me---they can have their own self-interested reasons for doing it.
For further clarification: I'm not bashing Michelle O. Or thinking in terms of "guilt" or "innocence." I'm saying I don't know what she is to us. And I don't know what to make of the silence I've heard regarding any community activities.
To put the "radio silence" about her community activities & the less than 6 degrees of separation into further context---I went to the same high school at the same time as Michelle O, 2 of Jesse Jacksons's kids, and Bryant Gumbel's little sister (among other individuals). For Black professionals who grew up in Chicago, "it's a small world after all." [*No, I didn't know her in high school*]
Peace, blessings & solidarity.
@ Miriam
Thanks for looking for information....this is EXACTLY what we need to do in order to identify allies...dig up the concrete facts where ever they may be.
I agree with those who say we need to be focused on Obama's positions and issues.
Yes, we do.
However, do you THINK that Hillary never advised Bill on anything while he was president...she just kept her mouth closed and turned off the night light? Really now...
Even Edith Wilson admitted she RAN this country when her husband was ill.
Reality check: Michelle Obama is probably NOT going to become a champion for black women or black community IF there is no evidence whatsoever that she has been committed to doing so in the last 20 years... I'm just saying.
I go to the blogs of black women writers and the discussion is "oooh I like what Michelle had on last night"! And we want to blame racism and sexism for WHY we can't advance our agenda? THAT is not the only reason we're not further along…we need to become informed participants in the political process.
Just wanted to make one little clarification, if I may ...(smile)
You said:
I think y'all are saying pretty much the same thing. the difference is "guilty until innocent proven" or "innocent until found guilty" approach.
Actually...no...the discussion about whether or not someone is an ally of black women IS NOT about being guilty or being innocent...
Not at all...
What I am saying is that when you identify allies, you need to use CONCRETE criteria to define your allies...
Identifying black allies and non-black allies has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with who is viewed with "suspicion"...
It's not about being suspicious... it's about being judicious with our language in how we use the word ALLY and being more prudent about how, why and where we give our loyalty.
I wrote a post, "The Glitter of Counterfeit Loyalties" about this issue and I observed that we (black women) must leverage our loyalties correctly...I provided a list of organizations where we can POTENTIALLY leverage our influence and receive something in return…
Can I just put two suggestions out here for further conversation?
We need to put an end to this romanticized symbolism we wrap ourselves in whenever some black person rises to international or national prominence…
We need to stop making emotional investments without FIRST examining criteria that is truly meaningful….
Every black person who happens to have achieved career prominence and mass approval by whites is PRESUMED to be an ally? That is as deep as we go? Let’s rethink this.
Thinking this way is ...well…okay… it's uninformed and it’s unwise and perpetuating this mentality will prove detrimental to our enlistment of authentic advocates and stakeholders.
@ Anxious Black Woman
I hope I didn't mean to imply that I thought people in here were giving out black passes... I was speaking about a common pattern I've noticed with our people in general actually....
Perhaps the critical question that we ALL must answer in order to be on the same page is this:
What is the criteria you have used to determine WHO is an ally of black women?
Thank you to everyone who has participated in this dialogue! I didn't say that earlier when I was on my little soap box. (smile)
Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa
@ Symphony
I agree with you 100%. There are a lot of prominent black people who talk a whole lot about black issues and never accomplish a thing because they aren't interested in accomplishing anything. They take pride in their cynicism and never use it as a catalyst for anything productive.
I'm not from the school that believes everyone needs to do the same things to improve the black condition. Some people inform, some people fight, some people lead some people serve. Just because you haven't heard about what someone has done it doesn't mean they're not doing anything. This idea is completely absurd to me.
I don't know Michelle Obama, but from the little I do know about her, I have no reason not to believe she wouldn't be an ally. As for what she does, she's a Hospital Administrator for Univ. of Chicago Hospitals and she oversees community outreach. She built the entire community outreach arm of the hospital from the ground up, helping to bring healthcare service to low income, mostly minority patients and bridging the gap between emergency room visits and actual primary care. She's also recruited minority owned business in the area to recieve contracts w/ the hosptal to provide services. I know she founded Chicago's branch of public allies after she left city government earlier in her career. If your unfamiliar with public allies its an organization that helps prepare mostly young people of color for careers in the government and non-profit work. Their goal is the change the face of leadership in the civic world. I've used public allies "students" before to assist me in community work and I can tell you first hand it's almost all young black women and almost all of them go onto careers in the public sector. It's a great program. I'm sure there's more great things about Michelle, but these things always resonated w/ me the most. The same way Obama's background in community organizing did.
For all the black people I know who question the Obama's commitment to black people, I can name very few who graduated from college or grad school with me that did anything with their degree's that served the black community or anyone else for that matter. I'm not saying that to be critical, because as I said before, there are many ways to serve. However, I get frustrated with this, because I work with communities on a regular basis and it always seems that the people who are the most critical are always the ones who aren't interested in doing anything. Not because they're lazy, but because they've become complacent in they're cynicism.
The Obama's are far from perfect and because of that I not hinging any of my hopes and dreams for black women or black people on their success. I believe that we will be the people who make these dreams come to fruition. If Michelle carries out the platform that she has discussed during the campaign (better support systems for working mothers) I think that would be plus for black women. However, I think if every black person who visits the blogsphere made a commitment to do just one thing in service to black people, we'd be on a roll. Like I said before, this is not to be critical, but to make sure that we don't get so comfortable in our cynicism that we ignore our own power. It's all of our responsibility to save the souls of black girls. Just because we agree on the problem it doesn't absolve us from having to address it.
I forgot to add that I love the picture at the top of this post. It's such a nice image to see when you visit the page.
@ Iman
You have made some excellent points. Thank you for that.
I appreciated reading about what Michelle has done for the black community that you have first-hand knowledge of.
You are right that cynicism is rampant and I will get a flood of email probably for saying this ....but it seems that some of the black people (in their 50s and 60s and onward) who were coming of age during segregation seem to often say: "well we have discussed these same problems for 50 years, round and round we go..."
Last night on Queen's Council, there was some discussion about how we (black women) have a tendency to spend a lot of time resenting and hating white women...
That is NOT HARDLY true for those of us who have been constantly among whites all of our lives...my siblings and I were the ONLY black faces in the entire school at some schools we went to... therefore we did not have the LUXURY of hating and resenting white girls or white people every day, every year.
We HAD to forge alliances.
There is a difference between alliances and friendships.
I call two men "Dad" (my father and my best friend's father and they are white). Her dad showed up at my office once when he was in town and said: "I'm here to pick up my daughter for lunch. She's expecting me." The entire place was whispering behind my back for the rest of the day: "...her father is white!" *LOL*
Both dads have "schooled" me about how to identify allies...one from the black activist/revolutionary perspective ...and the other from the old-money white privilege perspective. Both perspectives have served me well in my activism.
Thanks so much for sharing another vital viewpoint... and yes you are right...it's true that there are many unsung and unknown heroes who do a lot to advance the collective....
Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa
Iman,
Some people may be surprised that I agree with large chunks of what you said. Unlike you, far too many Black folks ARE hinging their hopes & dreams for Black people on the Obamas' success. I've watched us hinge our hopes and dreams on a series of self-proclaimed Black 'messiahs.' We also do this with Black folks who didn't seek to be perceived as messiahs (but are willing to reap the benefits of that perception).
The same, do-nothing behaviors are found on both ends of the spectrum. From the jaded & cynical do-nothings to the infatuated, messiah-worshipping do-nothings. That's why the starry-eyed worshippers sometimes react as if it's blasphemy to ask questions about the current 'messiah.'
We can't afford any of these mental habits anymore. They lead to costly failures. I sincerely believe that the next 10 years is our last chance to avoid becoming a permanent underclass in this country. Oh, there will always be a handful of Black folks that make it; but the masses are on the road to being a permanent underclass population.
Peace, blessings & solidarity.
Lisa said:
You said:
I think y'all are saying pretty much the same thing. the difference is "guilty until innocent proven" or "innocent until found guilty" approach.
Actually...no...the discussion about whether or not someone is an ally of black women IS NOT about being guilty or being innocent...
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Right. Innocence or guilt is not the point of the discussion. I am saying this seems to be the approach of it.
40 posts later only two people tried to dig up some information as to whether or not she is an ally or not.
The rest is how we should merely approach the whole thing. So? Let's all dig up info and that will put that whole question to rest.
Furthermore, it seems like its no longer about Michelle anymore. Things have become a general question of how to relate to a black woman whom don't know her activism past /or doesn't have a strong pro BW activist past.
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BTW anybody can be an ally if you can figure what's in it for "them".
I was thinking about the Rich Dad/Poor Dad books while reading your last post Lisa. I also feel challenged to have something more tangible I can I say I've done. I've protested, I've assisted homeless people, I've petitioned, I've written to government officials and private corporations. I know read political blogs and found my way here and to other spaces. I also have struggled to find my place in the world and work in the entertainment industry. There are times I feel I have nothing left to give anyone else and I'm using all my reserves to fight through external obstacles and my own thoughts and focus. I hope I wouldn't be questioned as not being a friend or ally.
Faith,
Speaking for myself only---I measure what somebody has done for the Black community relative to what sorts of resources they had access to. Similar to income tax---a percentage based on what resources you had available to contribute.
A person who's barely making it who donates a (relatively) small sum of money means more to me than a millionaire who gives $1,000. Also, (for me) "small" helpful deeds that are done on a regular basis count more than single spectacular gestures.
I also look at it in terms of what your peers readily say about your actions. The general public wouldn't have any reason to know about your protests, petitions, etc. But your friends would know. If you've done things on the job that were helpful to the community, your colleagues would know.
Unless you've made a point of doing these things in total secrecy, the people around you don't have to play "I Spy" to know about at least a few of the things that you've done in support of the community. And these are the sorts of things that they would naturally mention if they were asked about your community involvement.
We're not as invisible as we sometimes think we are.
Peace, blessings & solidarity.
Hello all...
This discussion is just TOOOO good to pull myself away from... I have a writing assignment that I was supposed to have started!! Tsk....
Identifying allies IS NOT about how to RELATE to a woman who does not have an activist or pro-black-women history...
However, I'd think that part (the how do we relate to one another interpersonally) comes into the equation much later on...
Identifying allies is a vetting process that has many stages.
The vetting process for identifying allies is ABOVE AND BEYOND merely completing the due diligence of the "prospective ally's" prior involvement in the black community...
Preliminary due diligence is NOT the sum of the vetting process.
Due diligence must also be completed to uncover the TANGIBLE and INTANGIBLE resources that a prospective ally has that can be leveraged within a particular time frame IF that ally can be enlisted.
AFTER due diligence, the vetting process is initiated and the due diligence process will determine the direction that the vetting process should take.
I don't think that involvement WITHIN the black community is necessarily a disqualifier for non-black allies.
For example, I am not a lesbian but if a lesbian group had a community empowerment initiative underway that had a common objective that also would significantly and usefully impact another community empowerment avenue that I am pursuing then that collaboration MAY work and it would be useful to start the vetting process AFTER some due diligence.
I am planning to write a post to outline the vetting process but my blog has posts that appear in a series so THAT one will not appear for a month.
@ Faith
I remember when those books were very popular!!
My story is a tad different in that I didn't have one rich dad and one poor dad.
My dad (real one) was certainly the more successful, more refined and more 'cultured' one. It feels sooo wrong in my spirit to sit here and compare my dads like that but I must give my 1st dad (he's black) his due honor for being the more "acclaimed" one but these men had different starting points in life for sure ...really though they are both extraordinary and fantastic men...both dads have loved me intensely, albeit differently. I honor them both.
Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa
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@ SheCodes
Congrats on the meeting with McCain! I am so happy for you! This will be an amazing opportunity and perhaps you can tape the Q&A and play it for the show (if he allows)!!
Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa
Yes, this is an engaging conversation. And, for me, it's really not (solely) about Michelle O---it's more about the vetting process. Right now, we don't have a vetting process in place. "What has _________ ever done for the Black community?" is just one of many questions that need to be asked at each step. I would also ask:
1-Does Potential Ally currently have anything that I want?
2-What can Potential Ally do for me/mine?
3-Can Potential Ally be persuaded to do "x" for me/mine?
4-What does Potential Ally want in exchange for doing "x"?
5-How costly (short & long term) will it be to persuade Potential Ally to do "x" for me/mine?
Peace, blessings & solidarity.
Just to add something about the black girls.
i have a young niece who got pregnant and gave birth to a boy.
i watched her grow up and did everything within my power to ensure that she stayed on the str8 and narrow. sadly the outside voice were much stronger than the voice of reason from family. and depite countless warnings and pep talks she got pregnant and had to pull out from schooling.
it was only after the bitter lesson, she realised that her family were right all the time, all in hindsight. She asked for forgiveness and a second chance etc.
The truth is that there is a naviety, feeling of invincibility etc, that somes with being a youth, it is only natural.
you see thats what youngsters do, they make mistakes, mess up despite all guidance and do foolish things. It is our duty to ensure that if all else fails and they do mess up, they live to tell and to 'grow wise'. that they do not pay the ultimate price for youthfull exuberance and narrow thinking.
Yes Our duty is to create a environment where there are few or little implications for chidhood 'foolishness'. I get a bit sad when young ones have to be and behave like adults and pass their youth as savvy, all knowlegeable, boundary obeying, reasonable beings. its sad they have to live like adults and have adult cares though it looks like this is the only way they can survive in this day and age!
@ Khadija
I agree with you that this conversation focus is NOT about Michelle Obama...although she HAS been mentioned... the REAL issue is to address the vetting process to identify black allies...
It seems that so many black women will name any prominent black woman an ALLY of black women..."name her an allly until she proves otherwise" is what I am hearing...
The answer to that is: NO.
We will not name people ANYTHING (black or white) ...and cling to baseless assumptions that are superficial...we will get facts and do research and start CHANGING how we think about alliances.
If we, black women, truly WANT different outcomes...then we must adopt different thinking.
Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa
Everyday I teach a group of young black faces, mostly female. In the inner city, poverty level and searching. Searching for themselves in ways that are self destructive and quite frankly scary. They talk to me about everything from gossip to drunken parents to their next baby and anything in between. The war over the souls of black girls is one that is ever present. We do need to pick up our sticks and beat down the boogey man. He is haunting our children, our girls who raise other girls and the girls that raise them. I've always seen myself as something other than what's shown to me on television, but I didn't grow up watching all of what's available to us nowadays. Every message is sexually enhanced, overblown and packaged to target them. Challenging the next president to change the head of the FCC may go a ways to stopping the reduction of black owned media, but would it be the biggest step in controlling our image in the media? In the last fifteen years, our image has been tarnished, shredded and run over by a steam truck and we (blacks) owned a larger percentage of this big picture. I agree that this would be a step but there needs to be more....still thinking.... jaha
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Hi Jaha, {waves}
Thanks for reminding me of that. I am with adults all the time when ministering and it's so appreciated for you to share what's happening in the minds of our little sisters out there.
I wrote a post titled, Black Women and the Vetting Process and I hope that it provides a valuable starting point...at least conceptually.
I'll hop over to your blog and take a look at the work you are doing!
Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa
As a younger female in my 20's I know that it is a little harder for the older generation to reach the younger generation. Alot of times young females just don't want to hear anything that goes against their views. I find that so many black females are complicit in their destruction. And wholely arrogant in their complicity. I work with kids as a substitute teacher and I have young adolescent cousins that I am close to so. I am scared for them because our community and this world have no love for black women and girls. The scary thing is that many young girl don't know that they are not valued. They think it's cute for boys and men to disrespect them. I think sometimes you have to meet young people where they are. That's why using facebook, myspace, and youtube is so effective, speaking of which I need to join.
As for a black female allies, I agree with Lisa and Khadija that we must let go of the romanticism and stop identifying people as allies simply because he or she is black or in a high profile position. It is also important to ask questions. That is the mark of intelligent pople. I wrote a post on my blog about this, entitled "In Exchange for out Loyalty".
Peace and solidarity,
Tasha
Tasha,
I have noticed too that young women are beginning to ENJOY being disrespected. I don't get it!
How can pretending to be raped in front of dozens of students at a dance be considered cute? We have really, really failed black girls in a big way.
Today I refuse to visit any black websites like Bossip, because I can't stomach the slew of emails that are sure to be there, celebrating R Kelly's acquittal.
The blog post is right. A lot of our people are morally dead.
@WitchSistah: I am completely on board with you and agree with everything you have said, and I encourage you to continue the conversation with us!
I deleted your comment because I have a "no profanity" rule here -- this is a place for Queens, and that includes regal conduct even when we are deeply angered.
I do not want to give any parent any reason to ban their daughters
from reading this blog and learning from us; profanity becomes a barrier that does not add value in exchange for the repellant effect that it has on some people.
Thanks for understanding, my sister.
shecodes is it ok if I reprint your article on Kevin Martin on my blog? This is soooo important and it needs to reach as many people as possible.-Thanks for the fantastic job you are doing for black women.....sara
Taylor-Sara,
You definitely have my permission! Spread the word.
Great post! Very good read.
I would say that Black cultural degredation has much more to do with this problem than the FCC Chair.
But you also make a good point about the FCC facilitating media consolidation. It's much harder to find and maintain leverage against monstrosities like BET when the FCC sets up barriers for competition and works against cable choice.
Welcome back, AI!
We have decided to make the fight against media consolidation a top priority for the Black Women's PAC. I hope to get more in depth with this next week.
First I would like to praise all the women (mothers, aunties etc) who whilst they themselves may not have personally achieved anything tangible or visible have nurtured, encourage, guided, mentored younger ones to enable them to battle with all the forces against them in society so that they could graduate from university. This especially holds true when the subject that the young one has studied isn't considered in the wider black community as a useful 'black subject' (eg. not law, business studies, finance; but instead eg. philosophy, botany, or marine biology).
These graduates may go on to encourage their own offspring to broaden even further their lifestyles.
The point I am making is that as well as the vocal activists our community also needs the quiet even possibly introverted black women (and men) who without looking for recognition or acclaim are silently helping to allow future generations to have more choice in the fields that suit their temperament etc. They are the people who allow young ones to find their own passions and motivate them to reach their potentials. Without which we are sorely restricting our young girls.
If alongside this a black consciousness is fostered they will go on forward our community whether it is in very visible way or a behind the scenes way.
Secondly, with this idea of free-thinking in mind I would like to recommend a couple of addresses:
www.atheistnexus.org/group/blackfreethought
www.wordsofwrath.blogspot.com/2008/05/invisibility-of-black-atheist.htm
article on historical black freethinkers:
www.infidelguy.com/article75.html
Correction:
Made a mistake in typing of second website addresss.It should read:
www.wordsofwrath.blogspot.com/2008/05/invisibility-of-black-atheist.html
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